I HAVE BEEN BETRAYED!
My goodness, you have been through a terrible ordeal. But do you know what I believe? I believe it's not your 'friend's' betrayal that is sending you to the very brink, it's the hate and anger you feel as a result.
I'm not saying your 'friend' doesn't deserve your hate or anger. But I am saying that you do not deserve the affects this hate or anger has over you. Hate will kill you, hate will imprison you. Hate will destroy your life -- (not your 'friend's' life.)
So, what can you do to be free? You need to give God the hate you feel and ask him to help you let go of it, and to also forgive. Not because this person who betrayed you deserves it, but because you deserve to get on with your life.
Would you be willing to pray this prayer?
Lord, in Jesus name, I give you the hate I feel.
Try it. Then pray this:
Lord give me the strength to let go of my bitterness.
Okay, this is good, but there's one more thing, and it may feel costly, though it will give you your freedom...
Lord, give me the strength to forgive this offense. All this, in Jesus' name.
You may need to pray these prayers every time the anger rises up in you. But remember, you are not justifying what your friend did. You are simply becoming free from the bondage you are in. Right now, this person has you tied around his or her finger -- emotionally. The bonds that he/she is using happen to be your very own anger.
Quit thinking so much about the offense, but of God's great love for you. Did you know that when your 'friend' betrayed you, it was as if the betrayal was commited against Jesus himself? Unless they 'get right' with God, they could be in big trouble.
If you can break free of yourbitterness, through God's strength, not your own, you will be free of this person and free to get on with your life.
Please, do not kill yourself OR harm this person who wronged you. If you
do, this person wins and you lose. This person will have destroyed you.
Listen, there is a better way. A way to peace and freedom.
Please take it.
You will know you have 'arrived' when you can ask God to help the one who wronged you. Keep working at it, this level of forgiveness may be your goal to work toward.
I'm praying for you.
P.S. The enemy knows that God has a purpose for your life and he's trying to stop it. Don't let him. Stand, in your love and God and God's love for you, and you will defeat the evil one.
Do you go to church anywhere? If not,
find a church. Talk to the pastor and tell him how you are feeling. But most
of all, keep doing the next thing. I'm not promising that you will not have
losses, but keep praying, seeking God, and His direction. Keep your head high
in this storm and one day, it will pass. The sun will shine again. And this
dark period of your life will be behind you. There is hope Jeremiah 29: 11
- 13 says "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord,...plans
to give you hope and a future.... You will seek me and find me when you seek
me with all your heart."
Keep seeking, keep walking, and God will see you through this.
In the meantime, please go get a check up from your doctor and tell him how you are feeling. If you think you are at risk for suicide, please go to the hospital or call 911. Do not do anything to harm yourself, you are going to make it. A really good book on this is Where is God When it Hurts by Phillip Yancey. God is going to see you through this dear one. Please, please do not do anything to hurt yourself.
You are going to make it. I'm praying for you. God is going to see you through this dear one. Please, please do not do anything to hurt yourself. Wait on God. In the meantime, if thoughts of suicide get too heavy, go to the hospital or call 911. Call your doctor as well.
Here's what I recommend to you:
1. We need other believers for encouragement. Find a church home. See if you can find a small Bible study of people in your age range. Call some of the bigger churches in your area and see if they have anything to offer for your age group. This could be a home Bible study or a Sunday school class. CLICK ONE OF THE FOLLOWING TO FIND A CHURCH: Evangelical Free Church , Lutheran ELCA , any , any , Presbyterian , any Christian , Assemblies of God , Mennonite , any Bible believing , for travelers , Christian , Methodist ,
2. Listen to inspirational
music. There's a lot of Christian music in different styles. Maybe
you've got a great Christian radio station in your area or maybe you can find
one on the web that plays a style of Christian music that speaks to you like
You can also go to a Christian bookstore and listen to their CDs until you
find something that helps you to feel worshipful.
3. Take time to read the Bible. If you don't have a Bible, there are versions available on the web that you can download. Gospel Book of John
4. Read the book, Purpose Driven Life. This is a great Bible study and you need to have the Word in your life every day.
5. Take our New Believer Bible Study . CLICK HERE: What do you do next?
6. Read the instant download, Grief Relief.
7. Listen to free, encouraging downloads at www.BestCDDownloads.com
Don't do anything to harm yourself. You are so loved. Please give your situation time, please allow God time to move. He may be waiting for you to give in to Him, to say, God I will trust you, no matter what. Try trusting God and see what will happen.
Also, please go in for a medical checkup and tell your doctor about how you feel emotionally. Your doctor may have medications that can help you get over this 'bump' in the road.
Also, I highly recommend counseling. You may find a pastor in your church or other local church or some other professional who will understand and help you with your struggles.
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please go to the hospital, call 911, or call
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